Thursday, November 12, 2009

Hard Times

(cliché alert)

What do you do if you found out that your best friend lied to you? Or a person whom you thought was your friend blab about your secrets to the world? How do you feel if a (supposedly) friend hates you so much without you having a single clue why?

What do you do?

Well, you can always cry. It's free and effective. And you don't need another person to do that. It's good to cry sometimes (or a lot of times). Just you and your thoughts..

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

[Coldplay]

Or maybe you could share those thoughts with another friend, considering that particular friend will not let out a single word. Oh and don't forget to cry some more while you're at it.

Or, if you don't have any more friends to tell (if this kind of things happen to you then you clearly don't have that many friends), you could try writing out the frustrations. This method works too, so long as you make sure that the entry is safe from prying eyes.

It hurts when you try so hard to feel angry but you always end up feeling sad instead. You can't help but think that this is all your fault. At times like this, can you decide when to display your emotions or when to conceal them? This will be the time when you recognize your real friends and discover that they really are hard to find. But at the very least, you always have your family to turn to.

Though it's hard, you must try to not give the matter much thought. It won't help with the grieve. In the end you have to learn to let bygone be bygone. Accept the fact that life can be cruel, but don't let it taint you. Cherish those remaining friends of yours who helped you heal. And don't hate people, even those who did you bad. You know you're better than that so don't stoop to their level. Besides learning to be more tolerant along the way, you will emerge from the tragedy stronger and better off.

Trust me on this.

4 comments:

  1. Ah ... first time blogging?

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  2. Not exactly.
    I deleted all my previous posts.

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  3. Oh well, friends come and go. There's always food around!

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